Having to leave education straight after GCSE’s or being “watched” till you get married even being forced to stay home and cook for the family. These concerns are still on British Asian girls minds, even though you’d think time has moved, tradition have changed. But for many Asian girls, they are still under treat from their so called traditional families. Families, which may use the concept of “Religion” to emotionally blackmail the girls to obey their orders.
While working with young Asian girls studying at stage 4, I realised their concerns are quite similar even now. Many worry about making a ‘stupid’ mistake i.e. having a boyfriend and getting caught by their family; this could stop their education even before they were to apply for FE.
However, I’m still considering whether the society would address these issues morally wrong or would you call it “Being a Bad Asian?”
http://yjj.sagepub.com/cgi/content/abstract/9/3/239
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AoGwwlFw20s
Salamz sister!! I see that you have placed stupid in speech marks, im presuming that you do not consider having illegal relationships, such as boyfriend/girlfriend as morally wrong??
ReplyDeleteWhilst I agree with your viewpoint on how parents need to be open minded, and that girls should be allowed to enter higher education etc, i dont think that parents use religion to emotionally blackmail their children, rather they use, and they admit to using tradional/cultural blackmail!!
I think the question is that do you personally accept having pre marital relationships is morally corrupt and see it as having negative impact on social relationships, regardless of whether you are asian/british??
I totally agree with you in some cases with the typical expectations within British Asian families.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I believe that there is nothing wrong with previous pre-marital relationships as you know for a fact that girls/women have been involved in relationships whether it's sexual or non-sexual but it does happen. It's the individual's choice to take decisions like these on.
In some cases, yes it does have a negative impact accordingly to the traditional minded families as they tend to find the fact to be utter disgusting. I believe this emphasises and pushes girls even more to react this way because British Asians families do not tend to let girls be independent at all and us girls need that to learn life.